Sense and Sexuality

People often think that the important good things in life should come naturally; by which they mean spontaneously and without effort. FYI, when you google “important things in life” this is the result: Peace. Health. Family & Friendship. Purpose. Time. Learning. Love. It’s expected (with the inference that if enough people expect it, it must be natural) to work hard on having a healthy body and mind, on our relationships, careers and basically all things valuable. It’s expected that we show intent towards reaching our goals and for our intent to be followed by specific actions to produce/ reach said goal.     Consciousness = Intention = Effort       With above in mind, I wonder why we so easily assume that to be happy (happiness) is something that happens without intent, without conscious effort? The same question applies to sex. Why are so many couples telling me how they miss spontaneous sex and that sex shouldn’t be planned (exclaiming, w...