I feel like I should start this blog of with some form of story to reel you in and then gradually get to the point, but I have no such patience. I want to jump right into the journey of consciously awakening your sensuality and sexuality through activating your senses; yes, they have been asleep and they’re absolutely dying to join your life.
First things first. You don’t need a partner
to awaken anything in you; you are enough, and you will come to that conclusion too.
Do stuff that remind you and reinforce that you are
special, sexual and desirable. Your core is sensual and sexual. If you enjoy
receiving gifts, order something for both yourself and your Bestie (use your
eBucks, reward-cards, whatever). That way you will share the feelings of
“specialness” with someone you really care about with the feeling being
reciprocated. View it as “I recognize, appreciate and value the sexuality
within myself” and spoil yourself!
Remember, its not an achievement to be in a
relationship so don’t limit yourself to this view.
Buy candles (fragrant if you can) and light them
whenever you have a chance. If bath-time is your thing, sure, but sensuality is
an "all the time" thing, not a single experience or activity.
Candlelight is flattering and sensual and will serve as a constant reminder of
your beauty. Remain in touch with your sensual self; it is a state of being and
has nothing to do with a partner.
Spend time being naked; look at yourself
(candlelight if you’re not a huge fan of your body) and keep looking at your
body until you become a fan. I used to find it odd to touch my own breasts. How
strange but common. It bothered me that I was uncomfortable with touching MY
OWN BREASTS. I decided to become familiar with this part of my body and
to start enjoying my own touch. I’d lay in bed, without a shirt (building
on being naked more frequently and enjoying the sensations of my skin), and I’d
put my hand on my breast. I felt my nipple and the softness of my skin,
the size of my breast against my hand… When I do this, I am mindful but
also not overthinking it; the object of the exercise is to FEEL and become
comfortable with feeling.
I recently purchased a dress which doesn’t allow a
bra. It’s a patterned, loose fitting dress. The touch of the dress on my
nipples and the awareness of being more “naked” than I usually am is such a
liberating feeling. When I wear it, I spend the entire time feeling sensual. It’s
a wonderful reminder of the sensuality of the body I inhabit but also on a
spiritual level. I fully appreciate and ACCEPT that which I am. If
you have very large breasts and it’s uncomfortable to go bra-less from time to
time, be creative, find another way to remind yourself of the beautiful being
you are.
When I was married, I made a point of creating a
space that smelled divine. People would comment on how lovely the house
smelled. I had different types of lavender in the garden, Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow’s
growing everywhere (my absolute favourite aroma) …. beautiful scents wafting
through our home, present in every room you entered.
Whilst my new home is filled with birdsong, has a
beautiful view of a park and I get to witness a Geelvink building its nest
almost right on top of my balcony, it lacks those delicate, flowery scents I’ve
come to love and associate with home. When you’re newly divorced, you’re
overwhelmed by the responsibility of “no-one having your back” in terms of
financial support. You’re basically on your own. I’m quite a responsible
person and fragrances for your home has become expensive but, they are worth
it. I view it as an investment in my well-being.
And we’re not even at perfumes or body mists yet. There
are few things that can make a woman feel as sensual as her favourite perfume. I’m
allergic to most so it’s a battle but I finally found one that is absolutely
perfect for me. It makes me feel special and decadent (yes, completely
and utterly edible).
Involve your senses in your everyday life
experience. Note how much more aware and present you become and be
deliberate in enjoying your body and everything it allows you. It’s often
an untapped resource. Sitting in front of my PC, typing this blog, I FEEL
sensual because I lathered my body with a fragranced cream and wearing
something I feel special in.
Become conscious of yourself; you are worthy, and
you are beautiful.
Chat soon.
With Love,
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