The Call of the Vulva



The vulva; a hot topic and business opportunity.  Can toys make your vulva sing, sure, but so can your mind and hands. 

Before I continue, lets quickly discuss WHAT and WHERE the vulva is.  Below image compliments of BirthBabyBody.  

 


I realized how I never touch my vulva and then promptly asked my friends whether they did. A resounding ‘NO’.  Self-love is incredibly important and a discipline for me similar to exercise, but I tend to use a vibrator and therefore, never actually touch my vulva.  As with my breasts, I decided to investigate.  These are conscious thoughts and conscious decision which we need to act on.  Having made a date with myself and ensuring I had enough privacy, am comfortable and relaxed, I went to bed and touched my vulva in an exploratory manner.  I wanted to feel what someone would feel touching it for the first time. My immediate thought was “How soft is this?! This is amazing! How privileged would someone be to touch this?  There is no way they wouldn’t enjoy it”.  What an amazing experience?    

You see, I had looked at my perineal area quite critically; wondering whether I should have some sort of rejuvenation procedure.  The moment I felt and experienced the softness and beauty of my vulva, I loved it and whatever procedure I was considering, went out the window.  Getting to know your vulva has become such a hot topic with intimate drawings and pictures appearing everything; entire sites dedicated to normalizing our perception of what a vulva should look like.  Why is it that we don’t expect all penises to look alike (we KNOW they don’t and we’re perfectly accepting of it), but we expect it from vulva’s?  What a strange thing to expect? 

I’m thankful for the attention placed on the vulva, it’s properties and differences as women need this; we lack education, we lack healthy perspectives and we have come to categorize our sexuality as unhealthy…and then suddenly healthy in the right circumstance (as dictated by societal beliefs).  If my vulva had a face, it would have a massive question mark on it as to when exactly its allowed to be sexual.  Here’s the thing, its allowed to be sexual all the time. 

Intentionality, intentionality, intentionality.  Be intentional in gaining knowledge of your body.  We are instructed to perform breast self-exams but not vulva self-exams.  Sure, the former is a health concern but what if we were encouraged to perform vulva self-exams?     


Fun facts:

  • [1]The clitoris is the most nerve-rich part of the vulva containing about 8,000 nerve endings; twice as many nerve endings as the penis. And its potential doesn't end there.  This tiny erogenous zone spreads the feeling to 15,000 other nerves in the pelvis, which explains why it feels like your whole body is being taken over by your O-M-G moment.
  • The clitoris is the only organ in the body with the sole function of providing pleasure.
  • Think every penis likes to be stimulated exactly the same way?  Nope, and nor does clitorises.  We’re all different therefore we enjoy our own type of stimulation. 

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Begin by exploring your vulva and gradually move to self-stimulation; playing with different methods to find the ways you experience pleasure the most.  Don’t be goal orientated; orgasm isn’t the be-all and end-all.  There is something to be said for the enjoyment of touch. 

We often wait for a romantic interest to awaken our sensuality and sexuality, but this only sets us up for disappointment and places a heavy burden on our partner.  If we wait on a romantic interest, won’t that mean our sexuality is bound to decrease at the same rate as our endorphins?  And are we then placing the responsibility of our sexuality on our partner? 

Sensuality and sexuality are not synonymous, and they aren’t limited to sexual activities. They involve all our senses, our being, our perception of life which defines our experiences as well as how we are experienced by others.  Let your actions be mindful, conscious, focused and determined to elevate your experience of yourself.

With Love,

Lynett O.

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